If you’ve been keeping your eyes and ears open in recent months, you’re well aware of the semi-sexual revolution for women that’s been taking place in mainstream media. Fueled by the Fifty Shades of Grey trilogy and Magic Mike, there’s a good chance this “liberation” will become more intensified as TV shows begin to follow suit and the Fifty Shades of Grey movie goes into production. For awhile I just shook my head, rolled my eyes, and kept my mouth shut. After all, I’ve had discussions/disagreements with atheists, political radicals, people of different religions, and Calvinists, and yet I’ve found no one to be as defensive and argumentative as those who feel you’ve insulted their favorite book or movie. However, I heard something this weekend that blew my mind and has taken a seal off these lips.
While doing some reading, I came across a woman’s statement about why she was seeing Magic Mike. I’m paraphrasing, but her statement essentially said:
“The men have had their fun; now it’s time for us to have ours!”
If you view sex using logic, in some ways that makes sense. If you see sex as a mathematical equation, then it’s only necessary to balance the scales to even things out.
But the reality is that type of thinking isn’t justifiable, beneficial, or accurate in any way. Essentially, the core of that thinking says two wrongs make a right and put the world back in order. Its message preaches that to make things balanced and healthy, both men and women should be allowed to expose themselves to the desensitization of sexual things. How’s that type of thinking working out for our culture? Not too well…
- We live in a culture that has a divorce rate of 40-50% (Divorcerate.org).
- According to sociologist Jill Manning, pornography consumption is associated with increased marital distress, risk of separation and divorce, as well as infidelity.
- According to a Focus on the Family poll, 47% of families said pornography is a problem in their home.
- In a 2004 survey, 42% of adults indicated that their partner’s use of pornography made them feel insecure, and 41% admitted that they felt less attractive due to their partner’s pornography use.
- 34% of female readers of Today’s Christian Woman’s online newsletter admitted to intentionally accessing Internet porn.
- According to a Zogby International survey, 17% of the female population are regular users of pornography (Covenant Eyes).
I’ll leave it to others to decide if these types of books and movies should be considered pornography because that’s not my point. My point is that somehow and in some way our culture has allowed itself to justify its behavior by looking at the behavior of others, all the while ignoring the devastating consequences that come with our choices.
We say that if men can do it, then women can do it. It won’t be long before that mindset is flipped around and men are justifying their actions based on what women are doing or have done. The sad truth is we’re more concerned about justifying why we’re allowed to do something than we are how that something will affect our lives.
Justifying our actions based on someone else doesn’t balance the scales; it only tips them even farther in the opposite direction. It brings no balance. It brings no happiness. It only brings a downward spiral of destruction.
First bullet comes from Divorcerate.org
Next five bullets come from Covenant Eyes.