Comments on: Why “The Bachelor” Makes Me Feel Insecure http://www.ipopculture.net/2010/01/why-the-bachelor-makes-me-feel-insecure/ The blog of David Jones Fri, 16 Jul 2010 20:00:36 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0 By: deborah creech http://www.ipopculture.net/2010/01/why-the-bachelor-makes-me-feel-insecure/comment-page-1/#comment-1641 deborah creech Fri, 29 Jan 2010 15:25:20 +0000 http://www.ipopculture.net/?p=1214#comment-1641 I can't stand the "The Bachelor". It really is based entirely on looks, personality as a second. Also, the show is NOT ROMANTIC. It's just not. I can’t stand the “The Bachelor”. It really is based entirely on looks, personality as a second. Also, the show is NOT ROMANTIC. It’s just not.

]]> By: Joe http://www.ipopculture.net/2010/01/why-the-bachelor-makes-me-feel-insecure/comment-page-1/#comment-1636 Joe Fri, 22 Jan 2010 17:09:37 +0000 http://www.ipopculture.net/?p=1214#comment-1636 What you're talking about runs much deeper than this show and starts much earlier in life. Look at most of the Disney movies - especially the most famous ones. Some Princess and Prince Charming live happily ever after in every one. Good looks, courage, romance and unlimited resources all add up to storybook endings. Little boys and girls still play prince and princess. We treat and call our girls little princesses. It's magical and it sparks in us feelings of the way it's supposed to be. Shows like the Bachelor are only grown-up versions of the same stories we've been growing up with. There's a line in Aladdin that sums it all up. Aladdin turns to his pet monkey early in the movie while looking at the palace and says, "Someday Abu, things are gonna change. We'll be rich, live in a palace, and never have any problems at all." What you’re talking about runs much deeper than this show and starts much earlier in life. Look at most of the Disney movies – especially the most famous ones. Some Princess and Prince Charming live happily ever after in every one. Good looks, courage, romance and unlimited resources all add up to storybook endings. Little boys and girls still play prince and princess. We treat and call our girls little princesses. It’s magical and it sparks in us feelings of the way it’s supposed to be.

Shows like the Bachelor are only grown-up versions of the same stories we’ve been growing up with. There’s a line in Aladdin that sums it all up. Aladdin turns to his pet monkey early in the movie while looking at the palace and says, “Someday Abu, things are gonna change. We’ll be rich, live in a palace, and never have any problems at all.”

]]> By: Jyess http://www.ipopculture.net/2010/01/why-the-bachelor-makes-me-feel-insecure/comment-page-1/#comment-1634 Jyess Thu, 21 Jan 2010 19:52:12 +0000 http://www.ipopculture.net/?p=1214#comment-1634 I high five what Hannah just said. I high five what Hannah just said.

]]> By: Hannah http://www.ipopculture.net/2010/01/why-the-bachelor-makes-me-feel-insecure/comment-page-1/#comment-1633 Hannah Thu, 21 Jan 2010 14:18:51 +0000 http://www.ipopculture.net/?p=1214#comment-1633 You should know that girls may “ooh” and “ah” over attractive romantic guys, but guys that are too smooth and confident scare us. Those are the guys we can’t believe. They’re the guys that hurt us. If they always know what to say and how to say it, then they probably don’t mean it and have probably practiced saying it on several girls before us. We don’t mind the honestly goofy and clumsy guys that may not know how to say what they feel or show us how they feel – but that provide security and confidence that they do love us. I don’t know if this helps, but just know that the truly smart girls see past money, charm, romance, and good looks. We want security. We want the real thing. I do appreciate the comparison you made though. I didn’t really know that we could make guys feel insecure in almost the same way they make us feel insecure. It’s just another picture of the way we have to search and sift through so many of the world’s lies to find the real truth. And it is sad, that although many find it – most don’t. They are fooled. Love has little to do with romance or sexual gratification and everything to do with commitment and sacrifice. You should know that girls may “ooh” and “ah” over attractive romantic guys, but guys that are too smooth and confident scare us. Those are the guys we can’t believe. They’re the guys that hurt us. If they always know what to say and how to say it, then they probably don’t mean it and have probably practiced saying it on several girls before us. We don’t mind the honestly goofy and clumsy guys that may not know how to say what they feel or show us how they feel – but that provide security and confidence that they do love us. I don’t know if this helps, but just know that the truly smart girls see past money, charm, romance, and good looks. We want security. We want the real thing.
I do appreciate the comparison you made though. I didn’t really know that we could make guys feel insecure in almost the same way they make us feel insecure. It’s just another picture of the way we have to search and sift through so many of the world’s lies to find the real truth. And it is sad, that although many find it – most don’t. They are fooled. Love has little to do with romance or sexual gratification and everything to do with commitment and sacrifice.

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