25% of Teen Girls Have STDs

Author: DavidJones  //  Category: Pop Culture, Youth Culture

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The US News and World Report released a study last week that says 1 in 4 teen girls have STDs (The results from the study showed 24.1% of teen girls in the study to be exact). Among teen girls who were sexually experienced, 37.7% had STDs.

Among the diseases, HPV was the most common infection, followed by chlamydia.

Some experts are calling for young teens and tweens to get the HPV vaccine to prevent the disease, especially cervical cancer, from occurring. Others are calling for sex education to begin at an earlier age.

Maybe we’re preaching the wrong message here. Whether we come out and say it or not, when schools teach messages about special vaccines, pills, or various uses of contraception, many of them do so in a way that says “We’re not going to discourage you from having sex; we just want to teach you some safety precautions.”

If you look online, you can find plenty of websites that teach people how to pass sobriety tests if they’re drunk. Sounds stupid right? Why should these sites even exist? We don’t want drunk people on the road at all, do we?

The same could be said about sex education and all of the “safety precautions.” Schools and experts have no problem telling teens how to take precautions. However, if you drive drunk enough times, you’re bound to be in an accident sooner or later. The same can be said for teenage sex. No matter how “safe” you try to be, you will have to face the consequences at some point, whether physically, emotionally, psychologically, spiritually, etc.

From that study, it appears that at least 1 out of 4 of teen girls would agree.

Sex education isn’t the answer. Contraception isn’t the answer. Pills aren’t the answer. Vaccines aren’t the answer. We may think they help a little bit, but judging from numbers, it doesn’t seem to be much. It seems the only true answer we should be teaching is abstinence.

If 24.1% of girls 13-19 have STDs, can you imagine what that number will be 10 years from now…right about the time those girls are getting married…

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My Thoughts on “The Shack”

Author: DavidJones  //  Category: Books

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I’ve heard the controversy on both sides. Some love it. Some hate it. Some declare it an abomination and act of heresy.

Many people have read The Shack by William P. Young. It still remains on the top sellers list on Amazon and Walmart.com. Some people told me I had to read it because it was life-changing. Others told me I needed to read it to be aware of the heretical teaching that was being read across the world. So, I read it.

Here are my thoughts on The Shack. Let me reiterate that these are my thoughts. You may not agree with me, and I’m okay with that. I’ll try not to include too many spoilers. Nevertheless, here are my thoughts:

- I came across a problem immediately in the Foreword. Although the book is a work of fiction, the Foreword sets up the story as though it already happened. For those who do not approach the book as a work of fiction, the Foreward could be very problematic.

- The role of “God the Father” is portrayed by a “large beaming African-American woman.” Some have argued that this isn’t a problem. God was merely appearing to Mac in the way that Mac needed to see Him. However, I have problems with this. Whenever we try to “humanize” God, we run into problems. When we humanize God as a “large beaming African-American woman” we really run into problems. No, I do not believe God is a gray-haired white man who rules the universe. But I do believe portraying God as a woman/mother is not in line with Scripture. Young also attributes “ebonics” to God (“We is all that you get“) which really seems to take away from the idea of our God being fully of wisdom and knowledge.

- Another issue that I had was when the spoke of the deity of Jesus. “God” tells Mac “Jesus is fully human. Although he is also fully God, he has never drawn upon his nature as God to do anything.” Mack then asks about miracles and “God” responds “He did so as a dependent, limited human being trusting in my life and power to be at work within him and through him. Jesus, as a human being, had no power within himself to heal anyone.” There are certainly statements there I might agree with, but Young seems to jumble some things together and make implications about Jesus that are not so clear in Scripture.

- I really had a problem with the book’s low view of sin. In one dialogue, “God” told Mack “I don’t need to punish people for sin. Sin is its own punishment, devouring you from the inside. It’s not my purpose to punish it; it’s my joy to cure it.” I’m very aware that “God” does not desire for anyone to perish and “God” calls all people to repentance. However, the Bible is very clear that “God” punishes sin, and because “God” is holy and just, He must punish people for sin. Even though God does not desire for people to die and go to hell, “God” is glorified through judgment because He is just.

- Continuing on the book’s low view of sin, one scenario bothered me more than any other in the book. During a conversation with “God” (aka Papa), Mack asks “God” how He can love such a screw-up. Here is “God’s” response: “I don’t wonder what you will do or what choices you will make. I already know. Let’s say, for example, I am trying to teach you how not to hide inside of lies…And let’s say that I know it will take you forty-seven situations and events before you will actually hear me–that is, before you will hear clearly enough to agree with me and change. So when you don’t hear me the first time, I’m not frustrated or disappointed, I’m thrilled. Only forty-six more times to go.” Is that a problematic? Yes! Basically, Young writes that God is not disappointed by disobedience or sin. Rather, God is “thrilled” because that sin means we’re closer to figuring it out. That’s not what the Bible teaches at all. Look at the example of the Children of Israel in the Old Testament. Was God thrilled with their sin and disobedience? Absolutely not! He poured out his judgment and wrath on them, and yet desperately called for their repentance. Nowhere in the Bible do I see God being “thrilled” with our sin. It’s our sin that caused Him to send Jesus to die. To say God is not disappointed or frustrated by our sin is taking a liberty no author has the power to say. To say he’s thrilled with our disobedience…that just might be a heretical idea.

- Another point concerning a low view of sin developed with a discussion on disappointment. During a conversation, “God” tells Mack He has no expectations for him. “God” says “Honey, I’ve never placed an expectation on you or anyone else…And beyond that, because I have no expectations, you never disappoint me.” Once again, the aspect of sin seems almost non-existent, or maybe entirely non-existent. This goes back to the previous point. Young’s take seems to be that God is never disappointed with our sin. I never see that idea in Scripture.

- An issue came up concerning submission. Here is an excerpt concerning the Trinity: “…we have no concept of final authority among us, only unity. We are in a circle of relationship, not a chain of command or ‘great chain of being’ as your ancestors termed it. What you’re seeing here is relationship without any overlay of power. We don’t need power over the other because we are always looking out for the best. Hierarchy would make no sense among us. Actually, this is your problem, not ours.” Some may find this trouble; some may not. I’m not quite sure how to interpret the author’s intent here. We know that Jesus submitted to the Father; we also know that the three parts of the Godhead work together.

- Young includes a comment that makes it very unclear what he believers about true believers. While speaking to Mack, Jesus said to him “Those who love me come from every system that exists. They were Buddhists or Mormons, Baptists or Muslims, Democrats, Republicans and many who don’t vote or are not part of any Sunday morning or religious institutions.” Later, Mack asks if all roads lead to Jesus and Jesus tells him no, but the statement really leaves the door open. Does he mean that people have been involved in false religions and turned from them and to Christ? Or does he mean people who are Buddhists, Mormons, Muslims, etc can have a relationship with Jesus? Young opens the door wide…and fails to explain what he means.

- Later on in the book, “God the Father” changes from the large black woman to a wiry gray-haired man. The point that is made is that Mack needed to see God in a certain way to be able to love God. I’ll refrain from saying more because of spoilers. However, I will note that although it may not be Young’s intention, the changing of the character of God almost makes it seem like God changes to fit our needs, and God becomes different things for different people; He is what we want Him to be. We know from Scripture that God never changes. He is the same today, yesterday, and forever.

- The ending of the book bothered me in the same regard as the Foreward. The “After Words” once again make the book out to be a true story. On the final pages of the book, they even mention “The Missy Project,” which to the naked eye seems like a foundation set up for a real life tragedy (Once you read into it, you see how misleading the name is).

- I will say that the book does have some positive qualities. It seems to deal with the situation of losing a loved one in a very real and helpful manner. I can easily see why people who have experienced great hurt in their lives have found this book to be comforting. The book also does a great job of dealing with forgiveness. It presents a very real situation and shows the main character’s struggle to forgive. As an Arminian, I was happy to see the book’s stance on free will, even though Young seemed to contradict himself many times.

- Overall, I had quite a few problems with the book. The book seemed to try to capture the audience emotionally. That’s not necessarily a bad thing, but when emotions are exploited, people will believe anything! Thus, Young takes great strides in bringing his audience in, and feeding information that may be true, partly true, possibly true, or far from the truth. The book took too many liberties with its information and also made too many implications about Jesus, God, the Trinity, and life. While there were many positive aspects to the book, I did find things in it that I believe could very well be considered heresy.

- I struggle to think what would happen if a new/young believer read this book. Although I do not believe it would lead a person away from Christianity, I do think it could instill values in a person’s life that are not biblical. The book seems to overlook the aspects of sin and God’s judgment. Love is preached throughout the entire book, yet the reality of judgment and wrath are nowhere to be found.

- From an editor’s standpoint, I found the story to be a poor work of fiction. I found many grammatical mistakes in the book that made me wonder if it had been edited by more than one person before going to print. Like I mentioned earlier, the story is emotionally gripping, but that does not make it a great story. It actually reminded me of a stereotypical Lifetimes movie. The story is bad, the dialogue is bad, the writing is bad, but the movie can have you in tears. (There’s a reason those things go straight to cable TV).

Would I suggest this book to others? Not a chance. I won’t come down as hard as others and say the book should be burned and thrown off shelves, but I would warn believers about reading it, especially believers who are weak in their faith. Sadly, many people read books like The Shack and believe every single word, and yet fail to open their Bibles and explore what God’s truth is really about.

But like I said…this is just my opinion.

What Does It Mean to Be Transparent With One Another?

Author: DavidJones  //  Category: The Church

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Lately in our Connection Group at Cofer’s Chapel, we’ve been discussing the need to be transparent and authentic with one another. I truly believe that believers will struggle to grow in their faith if they cannot be “real” with each other. Oftentimes we enter the church with a smile on our face, a voice that’s ready to sing, and a mind that’s ready to answer a few “Bible” questions. We wear our Sunday clothes, enjoy talking with our friends, and love feeling “spiritual” for 1-2 hours.

Unfortunately, many times that’s never “us.” While we play the part of a “Sunday Christian” very well, we remain dishonest with ourselves and others. If we’re struggling with sin, we don’t want others to see it. If there’s a problem in our life, we keep it quiet. Instead of being transparent with one another and with God, we convince ourselves that we’re “alright” and we don’t need to be real with others.

We do that for several reasons, yet all of them seem to be rooted in pride. We don’t like admitting to other people that we’ve messed up. We also don’t like admitting to ourselves that we need to make a change. Repentance is a struggle. It takes effort. It’s much easier to remain comfortable in our current lifestyle than to make a change.

As believers, we desperately need to be transparent/authentic/real with one another. We need to foster the types of relationships where we can go to one another in honesty and love and admit our failures and seek guidance and prayer in doing better.

When we refuse to be real, we only hurt ourselves. We can show up on Sundays and play the part, but we’re not sharpening our faith; only our acting skills.

Just by examining my own life, I’m seeing the desperate need to be authentic. I want to be transparent to my friends, my family, and my church. I want people to look at me on a Sunday or a Thursday and I know I’m being real. I want them to see my successes and failures and know they’re seeing the real me; not just some imitation that shows up to church on a Sunday.

One of the things I’m trying to figure out is how do we get to the place of being transparent with one another in a small group setting. What does it mean to be transparent with one another in a small group setting? Is there something that helps facilitate this or does it just take time? I would love to hear your feedback if you have any.

One thing I’ve learned for sure: Where hypocrisy exists, there can be no transparency or authenticity.

It’s very ironic. We may try to hide our true selves from others, but God sees right through it.

My Earliest Sesame Street Memory

Author: DavidJones  //  Category: Music, Pop Culture, TV

Today I turned 25 years old. Yep, I’m 1/4 of the way to the century mark. Today made me think of what some of my “favorites” have been in my life–my favorite songs, video games, TV shows, friends, subjects in school, etc. When I was a little kid (I use the term “little” loosely), my favorite show was Sesame Street. My earliest memory of Sesame Street is still one of my favorites. It was James Taylor singing “Jelly Man Kelly.” That happened in 1980…4 years before I was even born. 29 years later, I’m still a fan of James Taylor (and Sesame Street). It’s amazing how some things never change. Since today is my 25th birthday, and this year is Sesame Street’s 40th anniversary, I thought I’d share a little bit of my favorite moment:

Teenangers Who Play Sports More Likely to Drink Alcohol

Author: DavidJones  //  Category: Pop Culture, Sports, Youth Culture

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This article comes from Aaron Kuriloff of Bloomberg.com. You can find the full story by clicking here. My thoughts are after the story.

Nov. 9 (Bloomberg) — Playing team sports increases teenage boys’ likelihood to binge drink and fight, while reducing unhealthy behavior in girls, a study found.

Teen girls who played team sports said they fought less, were depressed less often and didn’t smoke as much, according to a study presented today at the American Public Health Association’s annual meeting. Male athletes who played team sports also reported some benefits, such as less depression and smoking, the organization said in a news release.

“Sports team participation appears to have both protective and risk-enhancing associations,” said the study’s author, Susan M. Conner from the Injury Prevention Center at University Hospitals’ Rainbow Babies & Children’s Hospital in Cleveland, in the release. “These results indicate that healthy lifestyle benefits are not universal and do not apply equally across genders.”

The study surveyed 13,000 U.S. high school students to evaluate links between team sports and risky behavior. About 60 percent of the boys reported they played team sports within the last year, compared with 48 percent of girls.

The boys playing team sports reported binge-drinking rates 40 percent higher and fighting 30 percent more often than nonathletes, according to the news release. The athlete boys also showed 30 percent lower rates of depression and 20 percent less smoking.

The girls showed no link to drinking in the study, the research reported. The athletic girls showed 10 percent lower rates of fighting, 30 percent less depression, 50 percent less smoking and 10 percent less unhealthy weight loss habits compared with nonathlete girls, the study found.

This study doesn’t come as a huge surprise to me. I think parents, teachers, coaches, and teenagers have had a pretty good idea about these results for a long time. For many teenagers, especially guys, sports is associated with popularity and popularity is associated with alcohol. In my high school, many of the popular guys were athletes who also drank.

Less smoking among both genders seems obvious as well. It’s difficult to be an athlete at the top of your game if you’re smoking.

It’s also no surprise that sports seems to boost or at least sustain self-esteem. When teenagers have a hobby or something they can spend time doing, it helps self-esteem, especially when a teen can find reason to feel good about sometime. Self-esteem is also built when relationships are built through activities such as sports.

The increase in fighting among athletes vs nonathletes doesn’t seem to be surprising concerning boys. I’ve seen fights break out among fans at hockey games. Guys take a lot of pride in their teams, even if they’re not the ones playing. If guys are playing, that pride increases even more. When someone talks bad about their team, they take it personal. That’s when fists get thrown and fights ensue.

Although much of this information may seem obvious and predictable, it is saddening and scary and something parents should take note of. While athletics can have many positive effects on the lives of teenagers, it can also lead them to take part in things that are unwholesome.

Teenagers will do almost anything to be liked, popular, or just fit in. For some, this is turning to sports. If sports was as far as this went, the problem would not be so complicated and detrimental. Unfortunately, the drive for popularity leads many teens (especially guys) beyond the field and to the bottle. Maybe the boys should take a note from the girls on this one…

What Do “Community” and “The Big Bang Theory” Have in Common?

Author: DavidJones  //  Category: Pop Culture, TV

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Ask any fan of CBS’ popular show The Big Bang Theory who their favorite character is, and 99% of people will tell you it’s Sheldon (played by Jim Parsons).

Likewise, ask fans of NBC’s show Community the same question and it’s likely a majority will tell you their favorite character is Abed (played by Danny Pudi).

What’s interesting is that both characters seem to have some type of disorder that many have labeled as Aspergers. In fact, in one of the first episodes of Community, Jeff (played by Joel McHale) directly tells Abed that he has Aspergers.

According to Wikipedia, Asperger syndrome is “an autism spectrum disorder, and people with it therefore show significant difficulties in social interaction, along with restricted and repetitive patterns of behavior and interests.”

Symptoms of this are very evident in Sheldon. He is socially awkward and often gets on his friends’ nerves because of his repetitive behavior that seems OCD. He has trouble with social interaction, often being clueless as to when someone is using sarcasm. Although he’s a genius, he’s often the butt of all the jokes and just doesn’t have a clue.

Abed shows many of these symptoms but in different ways. Though socially awkward, he is also very culturally aware. Typically, Abed is the one making the jokes instead of getting made fun of. However, he seems to having a problem taking social or emotional clues from other cast members, often living outside the norm and doing his own thing and being his own person.

When interviewed about the possibility of Sheldon having Aspergers, Jim Parsons had this to say:

When I asked the writers if Sheldon had Asperger’s, they said, “No, he does not. That’s not what we’re doing.” Okay. But it made me curious. And I don’t know why, but Johnny read that book Look Me In The Eye by Augusten Burroughs’ brother [John Elder Robison], who wrote about his life with Asperger’s. I think Johnny purchased it and took it with him on a trip, and when he came back he said, “You’ve got to read this. You’re gonna die. The Sheldon comparisons.” And I immediately went and I got it. And that was as much “research” as I’ve done on it. Which was very fun research, because it was very applicable human stories about living with Asperger’s. And the comparisons were undeniable. (Thanks to The A.V. Club for the article)

So far, I have not heard any comments from NBC about Abed possibly having the disorder.

By scanning through some message boards, blogs, articles, etc. I have noticed several reactions to the idea the characters have Aspergers. Some are extremely upset and refuse to watch the shows because of the portrayals. Some of the people, which include parents of children with Aspergers, say they are extremely offended by people making jokes at a very real disorder. However, others, including parents of children with Aspergers, love the idea that there are characters on TV that have this disorder. One father said his child with Aspergers has always longed to see TV incorporate characters with these real disorders to make people see that they are real. Other people have said that it has opened up their eyes to a disorder that they didn’t know is real.

I’m not here to argue if it’s right or wrong, but I do find it extremely interesting that two of the most popular and likable characters on television seem to have this disorder. Maybe this is because we’ve exploited the quirks of the disorder, but I’m not so sure. During the current season of The Amazing Race, one of the most popular teams was Zev and Justin. Zev was the first contestant on the show with Aspergers. Before their elimination, they became one of the most popular teams on the show as many came to love Zev’s unique personality and unique sense of humor.

While Sheldon and Abed aren’t exactly representatives of “reality,” I do think that along with their senses of humor (thanks to well-written shows), people have come to love their differences and quirks. Maybe it’s exploitation. Maybe it’s people acknowledging these disorders are real and coming to accept and love the people that have them nonetheless. I guess that’s not for me to decide…

Signs You Were Born in the 1980s Part II

Author: DavidJones  //  Category: Pop Culture, Random

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- You remember a time when the Macarena was actually cool to do

- You remember when Facebook was called a “cordless phone”

- You owned a special comb for your Treasure Troll

- You like Christian Bale, but you’re a little more partial to Adam West

- You put on a pair of glasses, pulled your pants up high, snorted, and asked, “Did I do that?” in your best Urkel voice

- You remember when there was only 1 Michelle Tanner

- You’ve always seen Howie Mandel as the genius behind Bobby’s World, not Deal or No Deal

- You asked someone to marry you with a Ring Pop

- You own parachute pants

- Your first encounter with Alanis Morisette was on You Can’t Do That on Television

- You actually thought Scooby-Doo was taped before a live studio audience

- You sang The Song That Never Ends until you got punched

- You remember when baseball cards were actually worth something

- No one batted an eye at the thought of two men named Ernie and Bert living together

- You always hoped your doctor was named Doogie

- You tried to turn your skateboard into a hoverboard

- Who cares about “The Fonz?” Mike Seaver was the man!

- Your role model: Mark Summers

- You can finish this: “And I’d like to take a minute, just sit right there, I’ll tell you how I became the prince…”

- You decided your lifetime career and future spouse by playing MASH

- You’ve tasted the “orange drink” at a birthday party at McDonalds

- Your first taste of American literature was Goosebumps or The Boxcar Children

- You’ve ever seen a movie starring Shaq

- You remember when floppy discs were actually floppy

- You’ve mastered “Oregon Trail”

- You poked a hole in the wrong part of a Capri Sun and had it squirt all over you

- Your mom wouldn’t let you play Mortal Kombat because it was too violent

- You ever owned anything made by Sega

- You’re still waiting for Macaulay Culkin to make another Home Alone movie

- You thought Trapper Keepers were the coolest!

- You actually wanted to hang with Mr. Cooper

- You remember when Nick At Nite had shows from before your time; not shows that were canceled 2 years ago

- You ever said “Whoa!” and tried to sound like Joey Lawrence

- You remember when McDonalds put a Barbie or Hot Wheels toy in the Happy Meal’s when they couldn’t think of anything better to use. Oh wait. That still happens

- You remember when Adam Sandler movies were funny

- You paired the phrases “Power Rangers movie” and “best ever” in the same sentence

Signs You Were Born in the 1980s

Author: DavidJones  //  Category: Pop Culture, Random

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- If you were a guy you wanted to be Zack Morris and date Kelly Kapowski. If you were a girl you wanted to be Kelly Kapowski and date Zack Morris.

- You can still recite the original Teenage Mutant Ninja Turtles theme, and you remember when the show moved to CBS and went downhill.

- You can relate to Doug Funny is so many ways.

- You remember when Polly Pocket actually could fit in your pocket

- You owned a Walkman

- At point you were sure Laserdisc would be the next big thing

- You know how to get to world 8 from world 4…and you know what game I’m referring to

- You knew Michael Jackson as the guy who did the song on Free Willy

- You ate a Flintstones Push-Up Pop

- You wore your pants backwards to be just like Kriss Kross (“The Daddy Mac will make you…”)

- You remember when MTV actually played music videos

- You remember when the worst show on TV was Beavis and Butthead

- Vanilla Ice…striped sideburns…enough said

- You drank “Surge”

- You’ve corrected someone by stating that Tommy was in fact the Green Ranger and the White Ranger

- You’ve owned a pair of shoes that you have to “pump” up

- “Clap on…clap off”

- You remember when you actually wanted to stay home on Friday nights to watch TGIF

- You can recite the Saved By the Bell graduation song word for word and it still makes you cry

-  You considered naming your first daughter Topanga

- You know Cuba Gooding Jr. as the guy whose brother Omar was on Wild and Crazy Kids

- You can Skip-It

- You’re still mourning from the loss of Mr. Hooper

- Your LA Gear shoes lit up while you walked

- You remember when Arnold Schwarzenegger was an actor

- When someone says, “Who should we call?” your first instinct is to yell “Ghostbusters!”

- You can name all of the New Kids on the Block

- Your teacher showed you the OJ verdict during school

- At one point, you really wanted a MiniDisc player

- You thought one of the girls in Hanson was cute

- You know what a “busy signal” sounds like

- You needed to use Microsoft Encarta for research

- You bought a slap bracelet…only to find out a few days later they weren’t allowed at school

- Your family’s first cell phone looked like an Army walkie-talkie

- You owned the board game Mousetrap, set up all the pieces, but never played the actual game